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One of the most complex and time-consuming elements of wedding planning is undoubtedly trying to work out how to seat your guests to make sure they have a great time throughout the wedding breakfast and beyond. While this task may seem simple at first, the bride and groom-to-be can soon find themselves swamped in Post-it notes, floundering amidst a sea of political correctness, familial feuding and confusion about where best to place your guests for the perfect day. Modern families tend to be a mixture of divorced, arguing, or feuding factions, and with the best will in the world it can be difficult to know how best to sit your party to make sure there are no arguments and everyone feels comfortable.

Table planning, then, becomes ever more important. The modern bride and groom have to establish how to keep their guests happy, while maintaining a positive atmosphere, not offending anyone, and abiding by the tradition that is expected of them. This is no easy task, in a culture where relationships are forged and broken every day.

The tradition of the top table

The tradition of the top table is thought to stem from the courts of France. People were placed in order of importance, observing the hierarchy of the court which allocated seating depending upon wealth or familial seniority. This tradition has held through the years, resulting in the positioning we recognise today.

To observe modern etiquette fully, the top table should resemble something along these lines:

·Chief bridesmaid, Groom’s father, bride’s mother, groom, bride, bride’s father, groom’s mother, best man.

If the bride’s parents are divorced, the table should be laid out as follows:

·Bride’s stepfather, chief bridesmaid, groom’s father, bride’s mother, groom, bride, bride’s father, groom’s mother, best man, bride’s stepmother.

And for a groom’s divorced and re-married parents, try this:

·Best man, groom’s stepmother, groom’s father, bride’s mother, groom, bride, bride’s father, groom’s mother, groom’s stepfather, chief bridesmaid.

Bucking the trend

Despite the expectation to seat people traditionally, there is an argument for dispensing with etiquette altogether. After all, the bride and groom are the most important people on the big day, and remembering this can only help the seating arrangements. As long as they are together, happy, and surrounded with people who care about them, perhaps it is time to move with the times and select a seating plan that offers the best chance of happiness for the two people whose wedding has led to this day taking place.

And finally when all else fails…..take the easy online option with TopTablePlanner.com, some nifty software to help ease the pain!!

Our guest blogger is the fabulous Jennifer Syrkiewicz

Jennifer writes as Stilus Word

Purchase her latest paperback, Gardening in the Dark from Amazon.

Each day thanks to 1BigPresent.com I meet some very talented people and in the world of weddings there are some wonderful new ideas out there so every now and again I plan to highlight a few of them. 

I have recently spent some time with Deirdre Thackray, the lovely lady behind The Celebration Herald, and I hope I can do her justice by explaining a little of the concept to you. 

The Celebration Herald is the perfect unique gift for family and friends, or indeed for anyone who has something to celebrate.  It is a beautifully prepared storybook which catalogues those special moments in time in stunning detail and which, once presented as a gift, will be cherished forever. 

For weddings Your Wedding Herald lets you share the stories of how you met, of those special moments together, right through to the proposal and the engagement.  It allows you to revisit the excitement of creating your perfect wedding day and to recapture the magic of the day itself with pictures of the bride and groom, the wedding venue, the dress, and so much more.  

‘The Celebration Herald’ is a real treasure. It’s the perfect gift for so many occasions including Civil Partnerships, Christenings and Naming Days as well as being a memorable gift for anniversaries and milestone birthdays, in fact, in the words of The Celebration Herald - ’Anything worth celebrating is worth its own Celebration Herald.’